In times of uncertainty there is nothing worse than the tug of war that can go on between our heart and our head. This tug of war can seriously affect your decision making ability.
One of the most powerful tools we have as human beings is our intellectual factor called intuition. I wrote a whole blog post about these faculties some time ago. Our intuition is that power within us, that sense of spirit speaking directly to us, that feeling we get in our ‘gut’. Well how many times do you take that feeling or that message from Spirit and start questioning it?
Is this really for me? I don’t think I could ever do that. What if I fail? I’m not smart enough or I don’t have all the answers or I don’t know where to start.
This can be simply put as a tug of war between our heart and our head. Our intuition is giving us a sign, a hunch or a message from the heart, but then our head takes over and we start to reason, and question that sign.
I recall sitting in a seminar with a friend and mentor, Bob Proctor, and he made a profound statement that I will never forget, in fact, I share this same message with my own clients, “When your heart and your head are in conflict, always listen to your heart.”
Wow….what a profound statement, but I can tell you it has made a tremendous difference in my life, especially when it comes to making decisions. We have a tendency to play it safe, to do what is comfortable – that is our head talking. Then we drift off and start to dream….. What if? …. we ask ourselves.
Much of this tug of war comes from trying to conform, we are afraid to step out of the crowd, afraid to step away from what is comfortable, what everyone else is doing. A similar example is young people who want to fit in. They all want to wear the newest shoes, the brand name jeans. They do this because they want to belong, they don’t want to stand out, they don’t want to be laughed at or ridiculed. I remember a conversation I had with my son when he was about 12 years old, he wanted to get his ear pierced. Well, I asked him why he wanted to wear an earring and it was because a couple of his friends had their ear pierced. And I asked him again, “Why do YOU want to get your ear pierced?”, never mind why anyone else wanted to, I wanted to know why he did. Well, he never did get his ear pierced, and I hope he learned a lesson that day – do not follow the crowd.
This is fine for children, as it is part of the learning process, the many lessons they need to learn. However, as adults we fall into the same patterns, wanting to belong, not wanting to be ridiculed or laughed at, so we conform. We don’t want to have to justify our actions so we simply conform. After all, it takes courage to step outside the norm. It takes courage to follow your heart. It takes courage to really stop and listen to what your heart is telling you or what your heart is pulling you towards.
“It is only when we silent the blaring sounds of our daily existence that we can finally hear the whispers of truth that life reveals to us, as it stands knocking on the doorsteps of our hearts.” ~K.T. Jong
So….next time your heart and your head are having that little tug of war – have the courage to trust in what your heart is telling you. I am not saying it is going to be easy, but in the long run, it will be so worth it.
Feel free to share with me a time where your own head and heart were in conflict, I would love to hear about it.
Blessings and abundance my friend!
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