You gain strength, courage and confidence by every experience in which you really stop to look fear in the face… You must do the thing you think you cannot do. Eleanor Roosevelt
I love this quote by Eleanor Roosevelt, sometimes we really need to just stop, look fear in the face and move on. It is our comfort zone that tends to hold us back. The thing we fear the most is probably nothing at all.
There are several definitions of “fear” and I am sure you have heard them all, especially ‘false evidence appearing real’ – what does that really mean? Well….let me share a funny story that happened to me this week.
Every day at 5:30am I meet up with a friend at the end of my driveway, we do a 45 minute power walk through our little fishing village, come back along the beach then up a large flight of stairs from the beach to the street, I drop her off and continue upwards around the corner to my house. As I am leaving her front porch to continue up the stairs to the street, a red-winged blackbird dives at my head…whew, not quite sure where it came from but needless to say, it sure startled me at 6:15 in the morning, I continue up the stairs, here it comes again…. I duck – of course visions of the Alfred Hitchcock movie “The Birds” is forefront in my mind. This bird continues to ‘chase’ me up the street, diving at my head and I am sure it is going to nail me.
So you are probably wondering what this has to do with ‘fear’ – the same thing had been happening to my friend each morning SHE left her house to come up to mine…this bird would dive at her head. She told her husband and sons about the incident and they knew immediately what she needed to do – face the bird and look it in the eye, don’t turn your back on it. Sure enough, it worked, so she shared this little trick with me. Now every morning as I leave her porch to continue up the stairs to the street and make my way up around the corner, I stare down the bird, it still squaks but he won’t dive at me as long as I am looking at him.
I thought this was a great lesson in fear – face your fear – that is exactly what I do now each morning, even thought it is a little difficult to walk ‘backwards’ up the hill to my house, I do it, until the bird is out of site. No more close encounters with the red-winged blackbird for me!
What is it you have been fearing – stop, look fear in the face and move on! Find a way or make a way! There is a solution.
Have yourself a great day!